I’ve Figured It Out!

I was sitting at my computer, playing bejeweled when it hit me. I think I understand why organizations such as the Catholic and Mormon churches are so vehemently opposed to gay marriage and homosexual relationships in general. Its not because the find it morally wrong, its because most (not all,but most) gay people don’t procreate. Even if they do, I’ve never met a gay couple or individual with more than one or two children.

The backbone of both these organizations is in their numbers. The Catholic Church boasts over 1 BILLION members. The Mormon Church, although much smaller than the Catholic church, still boasts over 13 MILLION members. And anyone who knows anything about these churches knows their stance on birth control and abortion. It begs the question if they are that way because their faith tells them to be that way or if they see the convenience in over 1 billion people worldwide popping out a bunch of kids who are more than likely going to be raised in the church by their parents. Hmm.

My question is, so what?

I’m not saying they don’t have the right to believe what they believe, regardless of the reasoning behind that belief, but who are they to actively work to deny basic human rights to people? What makes them think they have the right to push legislation that denies people the right to marry who they love?

The bible, and nearly every other major religion, teaches that we are to love people the way GOD loves people. In other words, unconditionally, without judgment or hypocrisy. How is it fair that when a heterosexual woman is hospitalized, her husband gets to decide how she is cared for, but when a homosexual man is injured, his partner isn’t even allowed to see him, let alone make decisions regarding his care? Their love is no different, their commitment no less than that of a heterosexual couple, so why are they being denied the right to take care of their loved ones?

Secondly, marriage, at least civil marriage, is handled by the GOVERNMENT, NOT the church. What happened to separation of church and state? The Mormon church poured over $5 million into the proposition 8 passage, and has probably spent MILLIONS more to keep it as law. They are staging similar battles across the country, trying to spread their bigotry and hatred as far as they possibly can.

The problem is, they are spending so much of their time and resources on something that really doesn’t concern them. Most homosexual couples aren’t walking through the doors of a Catholic or Mormon church every Sunday. They don’t conform to that belief system, and probably never will. The focus of the church needs to be internal, focusing on its MEMBERS, not people outside their sphere of influence, where they are only making it that much harder to show them the love their God supposedly has for them.

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Thoughts?

I don’t know how many of you know this, or even if you care, but I am an avid fan of the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer. I know, I know, why is someone as intelligent as myself reading books designed for 14 year old’s, right? To be honest, I really don’t know. I just like the books, so lets leave it at that, shall we, and move on to the point of this particular post?

There is a paragraph in the book New Moon that struck me especially today, and I’d like to share it with you. It reads:

“But what if this hole never got any better? If the raw edges never healed? If the damage was permanent and irreversible?”

I was mulling over these words, pretty much unable to get them out of my head. For those not in the know, this part deals with the aftermath of Edward leaving Bella. More specifically after she’s finally let go of the numbness that has encroached upon her for months now.

And as much as I hate to admit it, I once identified with the character of Bella. It was after my ex committed suicide. It was, quite literally, like a steel rod had been shoved through my chest and took out most of my vital organs. Ask anyone who knows me, I was in a zombie state for months on end. I’m not even really sure what triggered my return from zombie-ville, but in the months following his death, I asked myself those very same questions more than I care to admit.

But eventually, I moved on. I was able to start my life over again without him, and eventually moved on to MUCH better things in life.

My question though, is what if I hadn’t moved on? What would have happened if I’d stayed perpetually in my zombie-like state?

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Love, Again and Again

Love is all that really matters in life.

Money isn’t going to help at whatever pearly gates you happen to believe in.
Hate and grudges don’t carry over into the next life.
Your pretty car and trophy wife don’t gain you any points in heaven, though I’m sure Hugh Hefner will try and tell you otherwise.
Donating to charity doesn’t earn you any brownie points, just a tax deduction.
Feeding the homeless might help temporary needs, but it doesn’t increase your standing in life.
Climbing the corporate ladder only gives you gray hair and heart attacks if your not careful.
Paying your bills on time only keeps the lights on and your credit in good standing.
Having a mortgage doesn’t make you responsible. It means your in debt up to your eye balls, and the bank is raping you every month in interest and fees.

So when all else fails, LOVE.
Unconditionally, fully, and completely, LOVE.
On the mornings when your problems seem to outweigh your solutions, LOVE.
Kiss the kids on the forehead when you would rather scream and yell. LOVE.
Curl up on the couch with the love of your life when you would rather walk away. LOVE.
Unplug the phone, turn off the tv, and send the kids to a baby sitter. LOVE.
Let the car over instead of creeping just far enough forward to where they can’t get in. LOVE.

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